Damm Economy

It’s been a long week, a very stressful/eventful week.

Rewind to last Friday when my company issued layoffs! It was seriously the scariest thing I have ever experienced- picture this..

Typical Friday, everyone is super excited for the long weekend and is making their early morning coffee runs. At about 9am my whole team gets called into the conference room for a touch base, as I get up to follow my co workers into the meeting I realize that half my team isn’t behind me. Then just as we settle into our seats the boss man comes in and very bluntly explains that they have issued layoffs, and ( INSERT NAMES HERE) have been let go.

My reaction are- 1) WHEW! I’m safe. 2) We just cut our team in half! 3) This economy BLOWS!

So my weekend/week was a little unsettling and a bit of a wakeup call. The fiancé and I have luckily not been effected (yet) by the poor economy, but who knows if we are safe forever! Fiancé works in private equity and I dabble in Public Relations, both industries are getting hit hard- so who knows what tomorrow brings!?!?!?

In response to my near lay off experience on Friday the Fiancé and I discussed some very “grown up” planning for our future. We decided that while a move into Boston would be nice, it’s not necessary. Yes, our commute in longer than we like, but honestly paying more in rent rather than saving for a “house” is frivolous. We also planned on contributing more into our savings fund, and making some wedding adjustments.

It sucks that things are the way they are but I was always told if you have a plan set in place for the “worst scenario” then the “worst” will never happen.

Wedding Cake Topper

While doing some wedding related browsing online I stumbled across this wedding topper. Personally, I love it! Anyone who knows the finance and I, would think this topper is hysterical. We are both very affectionate, and are practically attached at the hip. No joke, we are rarely apart, and absolutely love it that way. But here is the question- my family is pretty conservative, would this topper be offensive?

I know Fiancé’s family would love it and get a real kick out of the little figures, so they are a non issue. But I wouldn’t want to embarrass my mother/grandmother in front of relatives.

On the other hand, it’s my wedding, we are paying for it, so we should be able to do whatever we want- right?

Thoughts?

I am woman, hear me roar...

Overall I had a really good weekend. Friday night we did dinner/ game night with some friends of ours, Sat. we apartment hunted (unsuccessful) then went out for another friend’s birthday, Sunday I had a bridal shower to attend. The shower was fun, I always like to see what other brides receive and then adjust my own registry. But it was a certain conversation at the shower that is fueling the fire for this post.

I simply made a comment about how I love showers, both bridal and baby. The baby shower comment then prompted the question of “when” in regards to starting a family.

My Response: “ I would love to start as soon as possible, but we want to be smart about and will probably wait a little while so that we have some newlywed time to ourselves and are financial stable.”

Her Response: “Oh that’s smart, plus you probably want to grow some more in your career and not have to worry about taking chunks of time off.”

Me: “True, but I would really love to be a stay at home mom, right now my “career” is more like a job, I haven’t quite figured out what I want my career to be.”

Her: “A stay at home mom? ( giggles) well, there goes a 100 years of women’s rights down the tube!”

This conversation left me livid! The whole woman’s movement was not about us working or not, it was about us having a CHOICE. Every woman has a choice, to pick her own future. Whether it be a career, a husband, a partner, kids, or no kids; and so what if my CHOICE is a little “old fashion”, or whatever you may call it, it is what I want.

Regardless of if so my called dream comes true; (Husband, four kids, beautiful house, dog) it is still MY dream, so please, don’t judge. Maybe one day I will find a career/job that I am passionate about and I will be more excited to work, but right now I love the idea of being able to stay at home with my children when they are young. But again this is MY CHOICE, and I would never judge other woman for picking a different route.

That is the beauty of being a woman we can do whatever we want, but one thing we can’t do is turn on each other, so please just respect each other’s dreams.

Sweet Stuff

So despite my constant battle with SHADY relstate people contacting me about crappy apartments- and more lies on Craigslist!.. I have two things to look forward to.



One: The conclusion of my current read. I seriously LOVE this book.



Back in December I went on the wait list at the Boston Public Library (just like Carrie Bradshaw, I also love the smell of library books) and I finally received it on Friday. I am a huge book worm, and have already read two other novels by Curtis Sittenfeld, which were amazing; Prep and The Man of my Dreams, so I was really excited to get my hands on American Wife. It's great- I actually look forward to commuting just so I can get back to the book.



Two: I just received an e-mail that Madewell is coming to Newbury street. The store is fairly new and is affiliated with J-crew. Now being a HUGE fan of J-crew I am excited to see what Madewell has to offer- Maybe a honeymoon wardrobe? The store is opening Feb. 17th and the e-mail includes a coupon for 15% off till March 2nd. Leave me your e-mail if your interested and I'll forward it along.



and for all you Bostonians bundle up....its COLD out there!! Brrrr


XoXo
BB

Weekend/ Wedding Update

I'll admit it- I have been very inconsistent. My goal was to blog at least once a day but I see that due to Stupid Job, busy weekends and late night wine drinking....this goal is a little unrealistic.

But I do have a lot to write about...all within good time ,I will post my stories, thoughts and random observations.

So on to my updates, first the wedding!

• Dress is ordered! I am so excited, but a little nervous because it won't come in till June.. so fingers and toes crossed that it is perfect.
• We think we picked a honeymoon spot. Although I had my heart set on Hawaii our budget needs us to pick some where more reasonable. So Aruba it is! Which I am thrilled about because neither of us have ever been and it seems to offer all the honeymoon essentials; spa, sun and sand. If anyone has Aruba trip tips, or must sees- let me know.
• I found a great place for bridesmaids dresses. All of my girls are out of state; NY, PA and NJ which makes the process more difficult, but I love how this place makes it easy to order five different dresses but keep the same fabric/color. All my girls are also all different shapes and sizes so I want them to wear something that they will feel comfortable in! Its right on Newbury too..ARIA.
• Next up- I need a DJ! Suggestions?

Weekend in NYC

After much talk and planning we finally went down to NYC for the weekend. It was awesome. We saw a ton of friends from college and sampled all the food I miss most; pizza, bagels...and late night diner. ( MUST GET TO GYM THIS WEEK)

I tried to do some shopping with Grammatically Impaired but no such luck. After finding a million sample sale goodies lying around her apt. I was hopping to find some steals of my own- but nothing. Oh well! (sigh)

Saturday night, a large group of us went out and shuffled around the city. Tons of fun, but this bride to be learned her lesson, don't drink excessively the night before taking the bus back to Boston. Needless to say it was a very long ride back.

We took the Bolt Bus, hoping to save some time and money. Personally I just hate bus rides, but if I was to rate the Bolt bus I would recommend it to others. They had outlets for your laptop, but *warning* the WIFI was very spotty.

Then just as we pulled into South Station our friends called asking about Super Bowel plans. The Fiance and I totally forgot we said we would host. So in exactly 2.5 hours we cleaned the apt., food shopped and made meatballs for sub sandwiches during the game. It was quite the site.

So, as you can imagine I am very tired today and fully plan on being in bed by 8pm.

XoXo
BB